When Is It Enough? A Journey to Self-Love and Boundaries

“You have nailed yourself to a cross, and placed a crown of thorns upon your own head.” Quote from A Course in Miracles paint a vivid and challenging picture of emotional and mental self-sacrifice. They speak directly to how often I unwittingly betray myself with choices that deplete my self-worth, causing me to prioritize others at the expense of my own wellbeing.

Recently, a friend offered me a different perspective, she posed a simple yet piercing question… “When is it enough?” This gave me pause and urged me to examine my patterns of over-sacrifice, ultimately shifting my relationship with myself.

What Does Self-Sacrifice Really Mean? 

Self-sacrifice often presents itself as a virtue. It’s the instinct to prioritize another’s needs over your own—to give, to serve, to support. While this behavior is commendable in moderation, it becomes problematic when repeated to a degree that harms your emotional, mental, or physical health….Yup this is me then I mask it with I am here to serve and I am a helper.

Many of us don’t even realize that we are caught in this pattern. Here are a few signs to reflect on:

• You struggle to celebrate your achievements or set aside time for joy.
• You feel guilty when focusing on your own needs.
• You’re constantly exhausted but still push through.
• You often say “yes” to others but “no” to yourself.

If any of these resonate, it might be time to ask yourself that pivotal question, “When is it enough?”

When self-sacrifice becomes a habit like with me, the cost runs deeper than fatigue. It can lead to resentment toward others, dimmed confidence, deteriorating mental health, and a strained relationship with yourself.

I have to constantly remind myself that self-love is not selfish, it is not an act of selfishness; it’s a foundation for sustainability. When you nurture and honour your true SELF, you build the strength needed to support others without compromising your well-being. Self-love is about showing respect, kindness, and care for your unique and valuable existence.

When you prioritize returning to SELF, the positive changes extend beyond you.

The Ripple Effect of Loving Your SELF : 

• Healthier Connections: Build relationships where mutual respect and understanding can flourish.
• Stronger Emotional Resilience: Develop the tools to manage stress and challenges with grace.
• Sharper Focus and Productivity: Approach work and personal goals with renewed clarity and energy.
• Aligned Decision-Making: Make choices rooted in your personal values and beliefs, leading to meaningful outcomes.

Returning to SELF for me is the key to creating a life rooted in balance and fulfillment.

Prioritize YOU, and watch the transformation unfold!!!